Any guy who has the same feelings as I???

[three2du]

I am perhaps an oversexed bi-male,my partner does not know this,however we had a threesome once and she expressed how it would turn her on to see a guy suck on my tool.Well we did it and she decided she didn't like it,so now I am looking for guy who likes to do bi-things to satisfy a need that somehow I have.My lady and I have great sex,and she is a knockout.But I still find myself thinking of sucking on a big cock,and wondering are there any guys out there who have these desires while having a great woman,who satisfies,but not enough.Am I a nymphomaniac?Or AM I JUST PLAIN OLD OVERSEXED?OR JUST BI-SEXUAL?

[paul3636]

i know exactly how you feel , i'm married now , but still have those feeling , haven't done anything about them since before we were married but they're still there, while i'm not interested in dating men i certainly like to play with them. I don't think that you are a nempho or oversexed but rather bi.
hope this helps
paul3636



I am perhaps an oversexed bi-male,my partner does not know this,however we had a threesome once and she expressed how it would turn her on to see a guy suck on my tool.Well we did it and she decided she didn't like it,so now I am looking for guy who likes to do bi-things to satisfy a need that somehow I have.My lady and I have great sex,and she is a knockout.But I still find myself thinking of sucking on a big cock,and wondering are there any guys out there who have these desires while having a great woman,who satisfies,but not enough.Am I a nymphomaniac?Or AM I JUST PLAIN OLD OVERSEXED?OR JUST BI-SEXUAL?

[leredacteur]

You're not oversexed, you're just "sexed !" Nothing wrong with that.

Your partner should be lauded for being openminded enough to try the threesome with another guy. Has she explained what she didn't like about the triad ? It's one thing, if she didn't enjoy getting it on with the other man; quite another, if she objected to seeing you and another man having sex.

Talk to her; ask her if she's willing to let you make out with another guy occasionally, with her knowledge and permission. Invite her to watch, if it turns her on. Whatever you do, don't lie to her or screw around behind her back.

There are a lot of us out here who know exactly how you feel about swallowing the one-eyed snake. It's an almost-addictive pleasure, an integral part of your sexual makeup, not some perversion or personal quirk.

And about the terminology: you're a guy, so you can't possibly be a nymphomaniac; nymphomania's for women only. A nymph's male counterpart is a satyr and the condition is known as satyriasis.

Good luck !

[OralBradley]

I have had similar feelings. Though my wife knows that I am bisexual and is mostly supportive, she is also somewhat threatened by it. After 30 years, she does realise that I am not going to suddenly dump her for a guy, but that was an issue early on. More recently, because of a mutulat fear of disease, we have been monogamous (except for a very few mutual masturbation session on my part), but now, with age bringing very srtong images of my mortality, I am finding the want for sex with a man extremely demanding.

[jedinudist]

I am married and Bisexual too. I have to deal with attraction and urges to be sexual with other guys, but can not act on those urges and desires.

Hopefully, someday, I will be able to have a male friend (who is genuinely a friend) that I will be able to seek some relief with.

Until then, I have to deal with my needs within my marriage. I do not want to hurt my wife again.

I think that when we marry, we are committing ourselves first and foremost to the one we love, then to our own needs.

Have you discussed the different options with your wife? How she would feel about the idea of you fulfilling this particular need without her present so she does not have to see it happen?

Good Luck!

[Ilovesex]

I understand what is happening to you, I am bi and have been happily married for more than 20 years. I love my wife and enjoy having sex with her, but men and the penis are always in my mind. I need to play and have safe sex with another nice male good friend, if I find one, and satisfy these urges and feelings, and talk about them with similars, or I sometimes feel I will go crazy. It has taken me many years to understand that I am not a freak, sexmaniac, nor anything like it. I am just a married man with a nice great family that until now, at 50, really understands that he is attracted to other men for some unknown reason. Why me? Why not me? I am not ashamed of me anymore, I will not fight it anymore, it is useless, the feelings do not go away, they stay. I know what I have to do. My wife will never know about this. Too late to tell her, it would break her heart. I need to deal with this and pretend till I die. Good luck to you.

[canuckotter]

As with everyone else here... :) I know exactly what you mean. In my case, we've got a monogamous relationship because that's what we're both most comfortable with, and I'm very picky with men so it's not much of an issue... But every once in a while I just get in the mood for a guy and want to go find one and fool around a little. I mostly deal with it by finding other things to do, like go for a bike ride or something.

You can do anything you set your mind to. If you decide that keeping your woman happy is more important than occasionally having sex with a man, you can live quite happily that way... although I would make sure she understands that you are allowed to keep your fantasies. ;)

[morenito]

I think, and personally identify with you, that what you experience is what most guys who call themselves bisexuals do. I had the exact same type of struggles, and personally chose to keep my relationship a monogamous one, but those thoughts are hard to get rid off. Good luck

[jacquespratt]

I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman who asked me early on "does it turn you off that I have bisexual tendencies?" I told her it did not and asked her "does it turn you off that I do too?" She said no. That was the first time I had spoken the words aloud to anyone. We've agreed that she is welcome to play with women and I'm welcome to play with men on the side and I have a couple of encounters (my first and second time) since we've been together. Afterward, I came home and told her all about them. Whatever she wanted to know, I told. I'm not oversexed and I have enough sex with her to satisfy any man but sometimes I crave the feel of a man in my mouth or hands. After I have had anal sex for the first time I may crave that too. I love my girlfriend. We have talked about it many times and she says that she is not threatened by my desire to be with men and I am not threatened by her desire to be with women. We are open with one another. I think I'm very lucky. I'm not sexually attracted to men but I do very much enjoy giving head. I am sexually attracted to women and very much enjoy pleasing them in any way that I can.

[Whippersnap]

I too know the feeling and the frustration. I have been married for the second time now for seven years. I told my wife before we married and she said it was understandable. So far I have been with her only since we married. I enjoy being with my wife but there are times that I could damn near scream because of the frustration of not having an encounter with a male. Yes I have dropped the hint to a few males but decided to not go through it because I do not think it would be right. My wife and I have discussed the possiblities of a threesome but can not find the right third party. To both of us they must be a friend first not just a tool, so for now I just keep hoping to find another if not for the physical then for the conversation with another who understands.

[CMack]

My wife is a very hot woman. Guys (and women) are after her all the time... She knows I'm bisexual, though I've never done anything about it. She gets very wet when she thinks about me with another guy and keeps trying to convince me to do it. I get turned on by thinking about it, porn, etc... and there are many times where I want to do it, though I know she is only turned on by it because it turns me on and she wants me to be happy.
In a quote from her... "You can be bisexual on your own time, but when you're with me I want you straight."
I think many women are turned on by the whole idea. I'm not sure that they would want it really happening. They would tell us they do and swallow the hurt, pretending it isn't there. This is a woman I will spend the rest of my life with, and I want nothing less than that. Knowing what I know... my urges are worth nothing, my love for my wife is everything.

[tracman74]

same here, love the babes but also like to have fun with both sides. love bi couples the best. anybody needing my help just let me know and i will love to chat with you about it.

[m.in.heels&hose]

Hey there three2du,
I have had those same feelings as you (and im sure by reading all thats been said you find you are not alone for having these feelings)


in my personal situation, my wife and i have an open marriage, and it works both ways (she is strait by the way) and it turns me on to know she has been with other guys, as it turns her on to know that i've been with guys as well.

Our (few rules) are they there are no secrets and no surprises (every thing is told up front and before hand) and (most important) that we both play safe

But i wanted to jump in and give you another :2cents: from, another stand point

Good luck, and i really hope everything falls into place for you and that you can be happy & enjoy your sexuallity to the fullest


m.in.heels&hose

[4boyzngirlz]

im there with u! I'm in exactly the same position

[Matelot21]

I like to think that I have exactly the same feelings, at times very strong. I really like to think of myself as a SEXUAL person rather than bi or anything else. I haven't had sex with a guy for such a long time and I would dearly love to have a close relationship with another guy and have a lot of sexy fun.
Not long ago I phoned a guy whom I had heard was gay and arranged to meet him. When we met I explained to him that I had not known the pleasure of having a nice cock inside me for a long time and asked him if he would do me the pleasure. I'm sorry to say he led me on and after asking me all sorts of questions about my previous experiences and what I particularly liked to do and have done to me he then casually said he was now celibate and couldn't help me. At least he paid for the coffee! In the meantime I have to look after myself. Take Care my friend. Matelot21

[backyard]

I like to think that I have exactly the same feelings, at times very strong. I really like to think of myself as a SEXUAL person rather than bi or anything else. I haven't had sex with a guy for such a long time and I would dearly love to have a close relationship with another guy and have a lot of sexy fun.
Not long ago I phoned a guy whom I had heard was gay and arranged to meet him. When we met I explained to him that I had not known the pleasure of having a nice cock inside me for a long time and asked him if he would do me the pleasure. I'm sorry to say he led me on and after asking me all sorts of questions about my previous experiences and what I particularly liked to do and have done to me he then casually said he was now celibate and couldn't help me. At least he paid for the coffee! In the meantime I have to look after myself. Take Care my friend. Matelot21
i am bi ,i am single sort of, i do have a ladie friend but i prefer to be on my own,as i have other commitments i.e kids,but love to suck cock fuck or be fucked,and i do not like to go to saunas etc,i prefer men that are manly and love sucking cock.i am new here on this site so i dont really know if this will work

[AndrogynousLuv]

Another interesting and somewhat difficult topic. I was once in your shoes and I remember hiding it all from my wife. She never found out about any of my excursions with men. I was miserable because I felt terrible for her not knowing and like such a sneak. And I was sneaking! After parting, I also hid it from certain beautiful girlfriends that I had a great sex life with...incredible sex. But I could not shake my appetite for cock. I was and am never a threat to the women in my life with this as I only give emotioanlly and every other way to the women in my life. So I decided 8 years ago, that I would never be secretive about this to the woman I end up spending the rest of my years with....or I would simply stay single for good so I wouldn't have these secrets.
I understand how it is though...those who are already locked in to their situations....it's tough...hang in there all of you....I know what it's like to love so deeply your women and yet be hungry for male sex....

[To_by]

Okay, I've never really been in this situation, but I soon might. I've a fairly recent partner whom I really love, and she is bi and knows I'm bisexual. We've talked about exploring a MMF threesome and while she's only had FFM triads she's says she's turned on by the idea. I'd hate for her to find out it was a bummer after she leapt. I thought that perhaps putting her in the center of a very loving sandwich might make the difference. :three: I also thought engaging her in 'directing' m/m sex might be a kick. Whatever the case I think a loving sense of humor will be essential. Is my little projected nest of menage-a-trois doomed to fail, or are their ways that two bi-men can make love and engage a woman and make her feel like taking part in it?

:shades: I don't want to have to hide how I feel...

[PolyLoveTriad]

LOL I tease my hubby about being over sexed all the time, but only in play and cuz he cant seem to keep his hands off me! lol

He feels the same way, hes totally satisfied with me, as I him, but its a huge turn on to have a 3some with another guy for me, and omg, it drives him wild and makes him really happy. I dont see anything wrong with him, nor you, at all. I think its perfectly normal for anyone who is bi to want to be sexual with the same sex even though they are satisfied with their partner.

Anyway, you said your partner doesnt like it after she tried it? Did she say you cant do it alone? I hope it all works out for you one way or another!

[ooby45]

I have got to say that this has been one of the more enlightening post/threads on the site. Very positive and reaffirming. I just wanted to thank everyone for posting. I guess I am normal after all.

And if there is anyone in SoCal, drop me a line. Lunch is on me.

[H2OBoy]

My urges are frequent,for M/M sex,but still have the same desires for Female contact. I wouldn't try to make comparisons between the two,but they do mix well.Although I do find myself leaning toward the bi side of things when masturbating.(My dildo gets a good work-out)My male exp. has mainly been " a quick suck in the park".Would like to find male or couple to explore and discover more about my "dual" sexuality.
I have acepted the fact that I am a little more diverse sexually than a lot of my friends ,and figure it's my business what or Who i do..And been on this site is about as "public" as i would go with it..Not that I'm ashamed of that diversity,just don't think those who havn't experienced same sex sex,would understand....Hang Loose....