Bisexual? Really?

[biguycancun]

Those of you who followed my thread about being a "disposable lover" know that I am currently seeing, or dating or fucking a sympathetic doctor who was a witness to the unpleasantness that transpired upon the death of my longtime lover between his family and myself.

While at the moment this is a purely physical and intellectual relationship, the good doctor and I are closely matched in education, travel experiences, political opinions and most definetly sexual appetites. As only my sexond sexual encounter with a Black man, a man who fulfills that tired cliche of Black Man's Cock, I continue to be amazed by it and my ability and desire to have that big thing inside of me. As an aside, I've become aware of how much hearvier it gets when engorged and fully erect. I tease him about all the blood rushing from his big head to his little head. But I digress.

Last night, during a post-coital hugging talk, we ventured into a discussion of women and sex. BTW, he knows about my history of femme experiences. I confessed that I still look at women, but not as sexual objects, only as clothing models, appreciating their clothes and shoes and grooming. He laughed and admitted that he hasn't had sexual feeling towards women in years.

So the question, which he knows I'm sharing here, is that despite labeling yourself "Bisexual", are you bisexual? If he or I were to be judged by a jury of our peers, based on a decades long history of only male to male sex, my guess is we would be classifies as gay. What about you?

[csreef]

I'm happy that you found someone to connect to on so many levels!

[Jazminedress]

Its agood discussion question honestly............while I am not much into labels, as someone taught me here, labels belong on soup cans. There is a reality that everyone is in one or more categories.

I think this question can go deeper than simply ar eyou bi or not. If my mother passed away, I would still consider myself her son, even though she is no longer here. If my brother was no more, I would still refer to my brother, so there is that.

With being bi, it depends on how you define it. For me, it is the capacity to have feelings or desires (romantic) for members of the same sex, and or opposite sex. The physical act, or acting upon it is immaterial. Now of course there is a difference from I havent had a desire in a long time, or cannot see yourself ever engaging in hetero sex vs it could happen.


So, short answer long...............

If there is zero desire, you cant ever see having a desire and you know deep down that even if this relationship ended, you would not engage in hetero sex................then at that time, I would say you are probably gay. And this same scenario has happened to many people who took time to realize what they are.

If that door is fully open, then you would be bi.

now me, I like one of each please