Curious as all get out - Why do you not enjoy it of those 15%? What's up?

[wifekinky4husband]

View Poll Results: Bi Men: Do you enjoy anal sex?Voters 1691. You have already voted on this poll

• Yes, I do 1,436 84.92%
• No, I don't 255 15.08%

Curious as all get out - Why do you not enjoy it (of those 15%)?

I was taught how to enjoy it by guy who was fabulous. I in turn taught others. They all love it once they learned. I taught my husband, who can never get enough. I am the same with DP but it is the anal portion that send me over the moon the most.

Have you not been taught well? Have you not found the right person who knows what they are doing? It makes all the difference. I have to train all my DP partners the same. It goes from, eehhhhh, to OH MY GGGOOOOOOOOOOOOODNEEESSSSSSSS!

All of you need a good teacher... trainer...

[KDaddy23]

Perhaps it's not the physical side of it that isn't liked - and it is something that one has to get used to and be able to find the pleasure in being fucked in the ass - but it's the psychological side of it that includes knowing what that opening's main function is. One woman told me that she'd never let a guy fuck her in the ass because it's the last place on her body that still belongs to her and she didn't think that she'd find a man who would be worthy to have her last, sacred place. Most of the women I knew and/or had sex with just said, "Hell, no - that shit hurts too much!" and it's one of those things where you don't have to actually experience it to know that what they say about it hurting is true.

I have a guy I've been mentoring for five or six years now and he still gets "weird" when an off and on FWB shows up at his door and when he does, my protege knows that he's going to get nine thick inches of dick in his ass - but he continues to maintain that he's a top and the continuing myth that tops don't bottom but he still talks about how girly, bitchy and less manly he feels while he's being fucked. I would say that the majority of guys I've known - and we've sucked each other off more than a few times - had it firmly in their mind that sucking dick was one thing, but anal sex was a whole different "ain't gonna do that" kind of thing because (1) it's gay and (2) see (1). But they tried it and didn't like it and from what I remember them telling me, it wasn't the physical aspect of it that they didn't like but the psychological aspects that made getting boned in the butt fall into the category of "I tried it (more than once) and I didn't like it and I'm never doing it again."

[Footstep40]

I know of more than a handful of fellow gay guys that don’t top, or bottom. I would definitely offer my services to one of them if he was ever interested in topping.

[biguycancun]

I started as a top and did not bottom to the extent of accepting anal sex until well into my fifties. But as I ventured into submissiveness taking it in the ass became a key part of the sub role. The temporary abandonment of decision making and reponsibilities, the one or two hours or all night lack of concerns for anything greater than my partner's satisfaction with my "fuckability" are the only things on my mind. Recently I have become involved with a man who has been blessed with (or cursed with) an oversized cock. On our first sexual encounter he was very patient, careful and considerate of my fears and doubts and over the course of that first night, with his help, I learned how to relax and take him inside me. Now I am spoiled forever as the pleasure of being fucked by that big cock is greater than anything I've ever experienced before. As been said above, a patient teacher is invaluable. My personal, admittedly biased opinion is that if you claim to be a bottom, you should be able to participate and enjoy anal penetration. A bonus is anal orgasms are beyond anything you've previously experienced.

[KDaddy23]

If I were to fall within that 15% that doesn't like it, it's because I don't like doing all the shit necessary to get ready to be fucked. For myself, it seems like the older I've gotten, the less I want to be bothered with anal sex, topping or bottoming but, then again, that's never been the focus of my bisexuality - cocksucking is.

[marine20]

i wish i could enjoy it . i have tried many times. seems like my ass is just too tight. i always have too much pain. i know , lube it up real good and start with small butt plugs , then work your way up to bigger ones. all this i have done , but to no avail. i'm sure if i found a guy with a small enough cock , i could make it work. i haven't given up yet. i love being a cock sucker , now i want to offer my ass up to a man that can make me his bitch. to use my pussy to give a man sexual relief. that would be really hot.

[Jazminedress]

sometimes I do, sometimes I dont..........it just is what it is

[Orgasmus]

I have to address that question with a somewhat ambivalent answer. #1) Yes, I enjoy the sense of closeness that comes with having my partner's cock and semen deep inside me. Relatedly, I enjoy feeling him twitch and throb as his orgasm arrives, and I get a certain satisfaction from hearing him moan with pleasure. I guess I also get some satisfaction from doing something totally taboo, something that would shock and surprise most people who know me. #2) No, I do not enjoy the physical discomfort that generally accompanies anal sex. For me, it's mostly a sense of fullness and pressure that I could easily live without. Getting My partner's cockhead passed. My sphincter muscle has always been something of a problem, although we have identified ways of making that a little less unpleasant. I wish I could learn to enjoy anal more, as my partner, Dave, thoroughly loves it, And the prostate stimulation that results from anal penetration yields some curiously intense orgasms. To date, I have allowed him to fuck me only 9 or 10 times in eight years. I'd like to explore anal intercourse further, but it's just not my favorite guy on guy activity .

[Fiddlestyx]

I thoroughly enjoy it with both sexes, perhaps my take is a bit different from some. Much as I enjoy the feeling of thrusting into a lovely sphincter I do find that the physical sensations of a nice enveloping pussy are a bit more enjoyable. Yes, I enjoy it, but enjoy the pleasure I give even more. Being on the receiving end I enjoy most of all the being thrust into side of things, though the pleasure it gives me partner in doing so is scarcely unimportant and that final moment when they have their joy is always delightful. The feeling of getting fucked though... yummy.

[Kappsguy]

I love anal sex when I'm top, with men or woman, its usually worth the sometimes long slow warm up. But bottoming I dont like. The times I've tried it, uncomfortable at best, searing pain at worst. Maybe its just people built different, some can enjoy it more, some don't?

[RICKCASV]

First let me say that I truly love being fucked in my ass by a man. I love the idea of my ass being penetrated by another man's cock, of feeling his cock enter me and especially of him cumming in me. I love feeling the head of another man's cock going in and out of my ass and of being fucked deep when a man is in me.

I have learned over the years to be very selective about who I let fuck me. I only engage in anal sex as a bottom if the chemistry is right. The right "chemistry" means that the man is fit and that I like his cock, his attitude, his looks, personality and his style. I also need to know the man well enough to trust him and know that he is not going to do anything to hurt me while he is fucking me or treat me like a piece of meat. I only hook up with men that I meet on the internet so there is always an exchange of pics, e-mails and a phone call before we actually meet where we talk in great detail about what we like and don't like sexually, etc. Anal sex with me as a bottom only is always part of these preliminary communications, especially during the phone call. I always make it very clear to the man I am going to meet that I will only engage in anal sex with him if the chemistry is right when we actually meet.

Because I am very selective about who I let fuck me most of my sexual encounters with men are blow job only hook ups. As much as I love anal sex as a bottom with the right man my favorite sexual activity with a man is giving him a long, slow, very wet, very sensual blowjob that ends with him cumming in mouth and me swallowing all of his cum.

[bob onit]

The sticking point is psychological for me. I eas in my 60s when i finally allowed myself to suck cock. I am starting to accept that I am bisexual.
I suppose if I met the right guy i could give up my anal virginity.

At this point now, I lose all desire after cumming. Would that change?

Maybe someday I'll meet the right teacher. Someone with patience someone kind. Is thathere anyone near Connecticut?

[RICKCASV]

The sticking point is psychological for me. I eas in my 60s when i finally allowed myself to suck cock. I am starting to accept that I am bisexual.
I suppose if I met the right guy i could give up my anal virginity.

At this point now, I lose all desire after cumming. Would that change?

Maybe someday I'll meet the right teacher. Someone with patience someone kind. Is thathere anyone near Connecticut?


It has been my experience that a lot of men lose their desire for more sex after they cum. I have never understood this reaction since I have never been one of those men. The very first time I ever let a man suck my cock he had me cum in his mouth. As soon as I was done cumming and he had swallowed my cum I immediately told him that I wanted to suck his cock and that I wanted him to cum in mouth. . I was so turned on by what he had just done to me that I couldn't wait to get his cock into my mouth and do for him what he had just done for me. After about 15 minutes of sucking his cock, tasting and swallowing his precum (this turned me on even more) he managed to blurt out that he was about to cum and I continued sucking his cock until he was done cumming and I was done swallowing his cum.

Since then I have never ever not wanted to reciprocate if I came first.

[Chonk]

I answered "yes" anyway but it depends on the size for me. I like anal play and I even have a fox tail with a butt plug on it. If it's girthy like a soda/pop can? I highly doubt I'll enjoy it.