What brings you to Bisexual.Com?

[ambi53mm]

Reading some of the more recent posts poses the questions: How did you come to this site. and what do you hope to find here? I came here purely by accident.I meant to type .Org and typed .Com instead. A simple error with good consequence. What I hoped to find was answers to questions and to give back what has been given so freely.

Ambi

[Long Duck Dong]

it was recommended to me by a dear friend..... lol

I had just stood down as one of 5 mods, from a site forum of over 120,000 people and was close to giving up on the possibility of meeting and talking to intelligent people online

so I joined bisexual.com.....and stayed.... and stayed...... and yeah... i am still here ......

my sister, skye, was a lesbian and this year, the aids virus finally became too much for her and she surrendered her life.....but she used my computer a few times and read the posts and articles in bisexual.com... and she said to me, that this site is living proof that us bisexuals are more than fuck buddies.... we are human people with intelligent and feelings, smiles and laughter.... and if I stopped coming here, she would come back and haunt me when she died

to me, bisexual.com is a welcome home, warm hug, and pull up a chair and lets chat, type site.....a place I have recommended to all my friends

[Enoll]

Appart from my girlfriend, I don't know any other bisexuals so I came
here to make afew friends.

[unum60]

I had given up on the internet -- I erased my yahoo profile and deleted my account, I had searched through my computers and deleted everything associated with sex. I had one computer left that I was going to throw away and before doing so, I hooked it back up to make sure that I was not getting rid of anything important. In my favorites was this site, that I had signed up for some time ago --- I thought I would peek one more time and here I am.

There so many people out there with so many motives and issues, most seem confused about who and what they are. The bisexual thing is well something that wants to be defined, a category for people who need definition. I find that this defining is happening here and I have become interested in the interaction.

Although I do get frustrated at times with the men who are so so desperate for female attention and the women who are not too sure what male bisexuality is, I am finding a comfortable place to express myself.

I am here not to understand myself, but express who I have become. I am not starving for sex or attention, I am not in desperate need to convince myself or anyone else of anything.

If freindships are possible I welcome them!

[pasco_lol_cpl]

Being a bi couple we were frustrated with the lack of outlets for us to get to know others of the same mindset. We were about ready to give up, and then we found this place. Its refreshing to meet those with a similar situation to ours. Though new to the site we enjoy this place on many levels. We like being able to discuss topics and learn from others with out having to deal with the trash some folks in other communities would heap on us for being bi. To be honest we look forward to one day meeting some of the folks on here in person so we can get to know one another better. The site is also well oganized and layed out. Its not loaded with bloated features or gimicks and doesnt skimp on any of what we feel are the required elements for a community centered board.

[Chaia]

My profile says most of what I would say here--I came here looking for like-minded people to discuss bisexual issues. I am from a smaller town in the midwest and that makes being bi somewhat isolating. It is wonderful to find so many people who are accepting of the life I find myself living. I continue to come back to this site because of the intelligent, caring, and polite conversations that abound on the forum. We don't always agree, but we are almost always polite and I have not found that to be true on every site I have looked into. Thank you to everyone who makes this a warm and honest place to come to.

[bediddle]

I came here because apart from my best friend I don't really know any other bisexual people.

I'm interested in how people live their lives as happy well adjusted bisexuals. I guess in that sense I'm looking for role models.

In any event, it's a nice site. I haven't posted too often but I've read a lot.

[Herbwoman39]

This is my other home. You all are my second family. One (and in many cases more than one) of you is always here when I need help or advice or just need to vent.

I looked all over the local area for a support group and found none. I tried for three months to form my own group. No one showed up. I was feeling very much alone in the world. Aside from my best friend's 16 year old daughter, I was the only Bi person I knew. And while it's a wonderful thing to have a supportive hubby and friends, it REALLY is not the same as being able to talk about issues with someone who's in the same boat.

One afternoon out of sheer desperation I looked on Bisexual.Org for support groups AGAIN. Of course I found nothing. AGAIN. So on a whim I typed in Bisexual.com and found this place.

Here I wasn't judged for being married to a man or choosing monogamy. No one told me I wasn't bi because of that. I was accepted for who I am and actually ENCOURAGED to be myself...whatever that meant.

I've grown so much because of the help and support I found here. I now understand myself so much better and I can accept that I'm Bi and be happy with it. It took a while to get to that point, but here I am.

This is my home. These people are my family.

[hillwalker54]

With a spouse that would be/is unaccepting of my BI side, it's a place i can talk with others that are not only Bi, but just plain great people! I've met and continue to chat with a few people i've met here and their friendships mean a lot to me.

In the short time here i've also learned more about myself and become more comfortable in talking about my "Biness".

Thank's all..

[pasco_lol_cpl]

Herbwoman bring sup a good point, with the dearth of physical support / community groups for folks that are bi, this place is a fantastic comfort zone / resource.

[Doggie_Wood]

I was surfing the web for bisexual eroticisms and found this site. My first thoughts, "Oh shit - another place that wants my information - and it's free!? (for how long?)" Well, Drew still hasn't asked me for a CC number (not that I would give it) LOL
So, I perused the site, read a few articles and comments in the forums then dove into the chat. Daayyyyyuuuummmmmm!! Real peeps!! I found most everyone to be ginuinely warm and caring, which kinda gave me that warm fuzzy feeling inside - you know what I mean?
Those I can and do call my friends (you know who you are) have become in important part of my life and as my second family. Good things have happened and I've laughed & jumped with joy. Not so good things have happened and I have wept until my hankie was sopping wet. And in my travels I have had the opportunity to meet several chat friends in person.
Wow!! Imagine that! Real people - real friends - real good times.
I am so glad I stumbled accross this site.

[DiamondDog]

I found this site because I was on other bisexual sites with personals only they wound up making you pay and didn't have an interesting php fourm to post on.

[Fire Lotus]

I know a few people on this site, so I thought I'd be here too. I have bi community and friends in Toronto, but more is always a good thing......especially when I'm in the states during the times I have to be away from Toronto.

[mistymockingbird]

My best friend chats on gay.com all the time. After I got divorced, he suggested I do a search for a bisexual chat room so that I could talk to people with similar "interests". I found two...bi.org and this one.

Have to confess I chatted more often at bi.org in the beginning. I've made some wonderful friends there that have become very much a part of my life. I chatted here as well and got to know a few of you. These days I don't chat that much in the rooms here or at bi.org. Most of my chatting is done via yahoo or msn with friends I've made at these two sites.

I do like that this site has free personals, up to date listings of local events, links to resources, etc.

What I really love about this site, and its also the reason that now I come here more than the "other" site, is the forums. I enjoy reading what other people have to say on a variety of topics. I like throwing my two cents in. I like that without having to spend hours in chat, you can get a sense for the community here. I have a feel for the personalities of some people without ever having chatted with them. I love that this site has something to offer to everyone that comes here, regardless of how actively they choose to participate.

This is definitely a community. A community that proves time and time again to be as accepting as it is diverse. One that pushes folks to live their best lives, but doesn't hold it against them when they stumble. (Not for long anyway, lol) It is a community that I cherish and am proud to be a part of.

[citystyleguy]

i was playing one day, a particular day when i felt very lost; most sites related to sexuality, end up being nothing but posting boards for sex ads. no real conversation, no discussions, etc., so doing a basic search and up popped a reference to this site. the rest is history!

great site, great discussions, lots of topics, and loads of other bi's!

[holle1199]

I found this by accident but it looked interesting and I am hoping to meet some local people to be friends with--I have been in the Si Pete Fla area for 2 years or so and haven't had any luck in meeting couples to get together with or to even be friends with.
Jim

[twosides]

My intro to this site is similar to those before me. I was investigating what was available on the net in the bisexual realm as I was coming to a greater awareness of my sexual identity. I haven't been a chatter since the early days of AOL rooms; I couldn't think fast enough with my fingers to say what I wanted to say. I wasn't able to write what I really thought about something just off the cuff. So when I found these thoughtful, honest, caring, and informative, forums, I knew I had found a community that I wanted to be a part of. It has helped me be able to form my thoughts about many of the topics. I stepped away for awhile over the past year, but recently came back because I missed the intellectual debate. Kudos to Drew for doing what he has accomplished and hopefully will be able to continue to do.

[mannysg]

I did a search for bisexual looking for someplace to talk to other bisexual people, particularly bisexual men. Living in a small town in a conservatice area makes it difficult to speak freely about anything other then hetero relationships. I'd love to have a bi man friend to hang around with and talk freely with, even if we never have sex. I'm happily married and don't want to cheat on my wife. If I (we) came across a man that we were both attracted to, and was attracted to us, then perhaps something sexual might happen between the 3 of us. I hope for such a sitiuation, but not expect it.

It's refreshing to find a place where discussions are about more then just looking for someone to have sex with.
Manny

[sam08537]

Once when our lover was home for a stay, he mentioned that he had been posting here. After he leaves, we miss him terribly. We came on here to read his posts, to feel a shared connection...or more accurately - WE WERE LURKING HIM ON LINE I stayed because it's nice to be somewhere that you can be exactly who you are and have that support. It's nice to read about people who have had similar experiences to mine.

[Lisa (va)]

I think I must be getting older, I came to be a member of Bisexual.com because the name had changed. I really started coming here when it was BCN (hope some of ya'll remember them days!).

As for how i found it, I clicked the wrong button on my ex's computer and brought up the history instead of favorites and it was listed, so I decided to bring it up and check out what she was looking at.

AS for why I stay, it's a place that I have grown continually fond of. There is so much support to be found among the folks here and though in the earlier years I use to live on the site I sorted drifted off (to handle my personal life) and visits became less and less frequent, though I am concsiously trying to come more. Just as many folks say that sexuallity is fluid and ever changing within individuals, life changes as well, and I am not excluded from that. But the love you develop for some, just need to come in once in a while to here a friendly hello and say hi: puts a big smile on my face everytime. Love to all who have put up with me.

Lisa

hugs n kisses

[Tynary]

well I'm a teen. I started discovering I liked women I thought I was gay and I found a site through google called gayteen.org I like stayed there a while and got bored with the simplicity and lack of biness and immaturity then found a link on there to freeethoughts for young gays bis and str8tallies and it was fun for many months and met some neice peeps but it dried up and theall members of the small site stopped using it but I found an advertisment for bisexual.com on there once and went there looked around a bit and when I turned 18 I joined and was nervous but began to like it and feel safe.

[Sitka]

I don't recall what initially brought me here, confusion i think was the biggest deciding factor. i stopped by Gay.com for the first time, and as the pictures loaded I felt increasingly more out of place.. much more so than with my straight friends and family. It just hit me that moment, there is a huge grey area that i had never consitered before that fit me to a Tee. the logical First place to go for me was bisexual.com, and it was what i was looking for. and after reading what you guys have had to say i feel more comfortable in my skin now than i ever have before. and i must say, this is the most friendly forum i've ever been to

[wanderingrichard]

had been searching for an online home after dumping another site that was over run with all the wrong people. and no control by the owners. i needed a place with people who had better educations, more open and worldly points of view, and were respectful of one another. didnt find that at that other place ..hmpf! make that, places.

actually fell onto this site quite by accident, looked at it, passed it by, but kept coming back.. it struck me after looking thru the site as a guest, that gee, this has a lot of what i'm looking for, it even lets you in as a guest to check it out and interact with the community.. not too many other lifestyle sites do that.,

anyhow, i kept coming back and back and , finally, ok i joined... and have never once regretted it,.

[clairey271978]

what bought me to bisexual.com....well one day i was sitting at my computer and thought about all th feelings id been gettin for women recently, and jus on teh off chance typed in bisexual to see wot cum up and to my surprise this syte came up....i was so curious and jsu thought come on jus join and see wot u find....so i did!! and u know wot theres all sorts of people from al walks of life wiv different sexualities and feelings and they are al so friendly and welcoming!as soon as i entered the chat i was made to feel welcome, 1st person being "littleray"! shes adorable and friendly and ive made quite few friends in there now! im finding myself and can talk about my feelings in teh room wivout bein too shy and closed in..i would recommend this syte to others as ive had good expereinces from here in such short time!!

[ziggybabie]

looking for locals. possibly to find a bi woman whose into bi men for friendship first, then maybe longterm relationship.

[mfanycomb]

An interesting question to pose. But the more I thought about the answers I've read & thought about coming here myself, I thought that the answers really didn't answer anything except the personal experience on one person.

Most people seem to want to connect w/ others. Generally this a very feminine trait--women tend to use networking as the process to deal w/ life. But it also can be a masculine trait, think of getting together for a football or baseball game.

Without understanding the person's particular sexuality & needs we really don't understand what the person is really saying when they talk about why they come here except on a very superficial level.

Personally, I am a lone wolf type--or maybe a better example would be a lone grizzly. Wolf really can't survive for long w/o the emotional and survival benefits of the pack. Grizzlies on the other hand only come together for sex generally, although they occassionally have a certain community during things like the salmon run or eating sedge grass. (As Desmond Morris does, I see many reflections between animal social/sexual practices and humans.)

Personally what others get from belonging to and interacting in a community nature, I get from contact from 1, 2, 3, 4, or 5 immediate contacts which I can intimately have contact with. Many feel this contact w/ a deep long conversation where deeply felt things are said. I've found that this is a good starting point but that the ultimate contact has to be sensual & sexual before a feeling of real completion is achieved (& I don't just mean orgasm although the illusion is humorous & real).

So the boards generally are interesting, they and chatting generally leaves me feeling empty like masturbation. Something has been done, but hunger is still there and nothing has been accomplished.

I think that I've had a fairly strong grip on my own sexuality for years. I thought about being w/ men, but certain events (and just sheer age) had to happen before I actually took any action. It would be easy to say that I'm bisexual, but that's really misleading. I'm a sensualist who won't allow societies prohibitions stop me in who I have sex with. Actually I'm closer to being described as pansexual than bi. But convenience & common understanding makes saying you are bi a lot easier generally w/o a lecture about all the nuances and vaguaries that any one person poses on the sexual rainbow in color, hue, tint, density.

Suffice it to say then that as others, I am continually searching to find outlets for my particular brand of sexuality, and have been coming here off and on for several years to find others of a like nature which would eventually lead to that deep contentment of occassional intellectual, emotional, and physical contact.

All people are so alike in their wants & needs, yet so individual. If we can occassionally break down those barriers of individualism while respecting it, then you can have a chance of some real satisfaction.

[bigregory]

I was born here and Drew is my daddy..

[wetkatz]

hi how are you?i came accross this site because i was tired of people saying what i had to be,why cant i make the choice by myself?its my happiness not everyone eles,god i just want people to butt out!!except me for me,iam not going to change for no one,if iam happy being this why then iam staying this way,i just want to find love like everyone eles.i hope i find alot of friends i can chat to.iam just me ,iam not a fake,so live your life to the fullest with no regrets : be happy with who you are!! mwahhh!!!! take care.......bye

[Mrs.F]

Well, let's see. I found out about this site very unexeptedly. Caught my husband on it one morning (not sure how he found it, he will have to answer that himself) but it was then that I found out my husband was bisexual. I didn't know how to deal with it, didn't know what a bisexual was and had alot of fear of the unknown. My husband explained to me that there were straight wives on here and many others who could and would help me and he was right. I joined here as myself and did alot of soul searching on my own and what I found was a 2nd home, a 2nd family and many, many friends that I could never live without now. I've become very proud to be a member of this site.

P.S.--I'm still straight...lol. I get asked that alot..

[onewhocares]

Gee, it seems like a lifetime ago that we found this site accidently. Time has flown by...I can not believe it has been a year. Hubby and I had decided to try and find a man to develope a long term relationship with. Something more than just casual sex. What we found was that and SO SO much more. We have been priveledged to have met so many wonderful people, many who have become dear friends, some more. As a straight woman married, twenty years last week, I wanted to learn more about being bi and how other wives handle it. I wanted to learn more about hubby initially, in the end, I have learned more about myself.

Belle